As we navigate this time of crisis across the world, it is helpful to recognise when we are in control of our emotions and when they may be in control of us.
Firstly, it is important to be informed and clear about the guidelines that we are required to follow, for our own safety and the safety of others close to us and those that may be vulnerable.
Next, before we help others; we need to ensure we are well and have our needs met. It is like the emergency guidelines on an aircraft – to place your mask on first before you take care of others.
Ensuring the safety or our loved ones helps us to remain calm in a crisis, by being practical and supportive.
As our current predicament is not necessary a short-term emergency situation, once we have followed guidelines and dealt with the practical issues, we can feel helpless in our situation as we are not in control and have no idea how long it will last.
In a crisis, we initially use our mental and physical faculties to create safety. However, once these are achieved it may be the emotional domain that may need to be managed to ensure we remain resilient and well. The media have been extremely efficient in providing us with continuous updates not only from our Government but also from across the world. Keeping informed can support some people, yet for others, it may create more anxiety, stress and worry. Crisis news overload can have an impact on ourselves and escalate the fear in those close to us.
The Media is not only delivering facts, but it is also generating assumptions and predictions for the future which cause extensive concern. Most people I have spoken to are not worried about contracting the virus, but more the economical outcomes that may affect their ability to work, provide for their family and survive in the long-term. Such uncertainty and fear damaging our ability to manage the situation from a mental and emotional perspective.
If we listen to predictions of disaster, we imagine them in our minds as if they were happening in this very moment. This may then create a cascade of thoughts and emotions that begin to pull us out of the present and unable to manage the current crisis for fear of the long-term crisis looming. It is our mind high-jacking us and we are doing this to ourselves.
When we recognize we have become lost in a disastrous future we can begin to gain more control of our situation in the present.
- Firstly, by accepting that no-one has the full truth of what is going to happen. We are all existing in the unknown.
- Listen to the guidance the instructions and take action where you possibly can.
- Choose what you want to focus on.
- We can also take ourselves to a place where we do feel calm, safe and content.
- The truth is for most of us – at this moment we are fine, safe and have our needs met.
- Another technique we can adapt is to disengage from our thoughts and focus on feelings by centring our awareness in our heart.
Being grateful that we are safe in this moment and people are receiving the support they need. Thinking about those we care about and radiating positive emotions towards them, wherever they might be. Thinking and picturing positive outcomes is what will generate more a more positive state. It is not about being in denial or unrealistic it is about managing ourselves our emotions for our benefit and the benefit of others.
For more information and techniques to managing the ups and downs that you will experience get in touch.